Thinking About Your Own Death

thinking about deathThinking about your own death is a great way to bring your life back into prospective.

It focuses your thoughts and makes you appreciate what you have.

I’m still young enough to be able to count my remaining time in decades. But I’m old enough to realize that I’m not invincible, nor am I going to live forever.

Watching someone die over a period of time is also a great motivator.

I watched my best friends mom die a few months ago. She was 80 and still active until her last month. She got sick, went into the hospital for a month, and never walked out.

What is the best way to spend this precious day?

Her previous ailments didn’t substantially effect her lifestyle. But they all caught up with her at once. Her body just wore out.

My father died pretty much the same way. He lived until he was 85. Only the last few months were abnormal.

I can’t see the end of my life yet. But I can see the horizon. It might come in the form of a speeding truck. Or (hopefully) slowly creep up on me in old age.

Thinking about death always brings me back to the present. It makes me ask “What is the best way to spend this precious day?”

Why Is Living In The Moment So Difficult?

in-the-momentI can think of 2 reasons why living in the moment is so difficult.

The first is distractions.

Distractions occupy the mind and take our focus away from the moment. The solution to this is to reduce distractions.

Distractions come in many forms. Be they environmental, or people or responsibilities. All these things can weigh on your mind and distract you from the moment.

The other thing is not knowing what we want.

But it’s worth the effort because living in the moment is the ultimate use of your time and your life.

When we’re doing want we want we naturally live closer to the moment. But if you don’t know what you want then you don’t know what you should be doing.

You don’t have to fully resolve these issues to live in the moment. But any movement from the status quo will make it easier.

And of course practice helps. It’s a skill like many things in life, that can be improved with repetition and practice.

But it’s worth the effort because living in the moment is the ultimate use of your time and your life.

The Best Thing About Having Money

pennyThe best thing about having money is that it allows you to free up your time and do as you please. Without money you are pre-occupied with feeding yourself and finding a safe place to sleep.

Money allows you to buy your time and your freedom.

Without sufficient money your life is stuck in survival mode. Money allows you to buy your time and your freedom.

But where many people fail is that they spend their extra money on things.

Instead of freeing their life up for adventures and experiences, they tie themselves down with things… Houses, cars, boats, and other forms of responsibilities.

For most people, it’s hard to save or invest money. They tend to spend it without realizing it’s highest and best use… Which is to buy your time and your freedom.

Thinking Time

IMGP2366-thinking-timeMy favorite time of day is something I call thinking time. It’s when I go to my favorite restaurant or coffee shop, sit down and think.

It’s best when proceeded by a 20 minute walk that slows your mind and gives you time to gathers your thoughts. Then when you sit down you can start to bring your thoughts together into a final form.

I always look forward to my thinking time as a way to relax, focus my thoughts, and give me a mental direction for the rest of the day.

It’s a great way to start your writing day, or to solve a problem. Or to just clear your mind and enjoy the moment. It’s also a great time to do some free writing.

I always take my smart phone and a pen and piece of paper. Sometimes I just scribble notes or thoughts. Sometimes I go right for the smart phone and start typing. But many times I just sit and look around with nothing particular on my mind.

If I’m in the middle of a project I will being my computer along with some preexisting work. It’s a great way to sort through and see things in a new light.

When you have time to sit and think you can see patterns and get ideas that have otherwise passed by. It’s not uncommon for me to come up with an outline or a few notes that give me a plan and direction for the entire day. All from 15 minutes of thinking time.

Best time of the day for me is late morning after I have gotten the mornings busywork out of the way. I prefer when I can combine it with an early lunch: About 10 or 10.30 in the morning.

Thinking time is something you have to do alone because creativity and thought are solo occupations. A companion is always a distraction. Crowded places are fine as long as no one distracts you.

I always look forward to my thinking time as a way to relax, focus my thoughts, and give me a mental direction for the rest of the day.

Things That Own You

things that own youMany of my friends are envious of my lifestyle. They want to travel the world as I do, and come and go as they please with few or no responsibilities.

When they ask me how to do it the first thing I say is to get rid of your possessions. They own you and not the other way around.

The more things you own the fewer lifestyle options you have.

Possessions take time, money and effort to maintain. The more things you own the fewer lifestyle options you have.

If you have a family you probably need a house. If you have a job you probably need a car. But those things also tie you down and limit your options.

Unless you have lots of money and can hire someone to manage your things, you have to get rid of them to free up your lifestyle.

If that’s what you really want. It’s all a matter of priorities.